My network marketing career began after being a stay-at-home mom for 9 years. I have 2 precious boys, whom I love dearly, however I wanted to do something for extra income (not to mention wanting interaction with other adults!). Although I have a college degree in nutrition and worked for many years as a dietitian, I did not want to go back in the work force in a traditional job, and I wasn’t so sure I wanted to stay in the nutrition field.
Starting a home business made so much sense because I could still be home with my kids and not miss out on the little and big moments in their lives.
I’ve been in the networking industry 5+ years and have spent over $75-80,000 on courses, trainings, etc on how to get better at prospecting, recruiting, closing, mindset, etc. I say that not to impress you, but to show you my determination of figuring out how to be successful in MLM. All of those trainings helped me sharpen my skill set so much, that I could connect with just about any prospect. Although I’m thankful for all the personal growth I had, it came at tremendous cost.
But there are a few things that never sat well with me in network marketing. And I feel God kept drawing me back to these 4 points, and it’s the reason why I would recruit well for awhile, then stall, then recruit then stall, never growing a “massive” team. I developed the skill set to recruit just about anyone, however, there was something blocking me in my belief that held me back. Turns out…..for a very good reason, and God had a different plan for me that He revealed to me over time. Here are 4 “Aha” moments I had:
4 THINGS I DON’T LIKE ABOUT
- 95% of people never have achievable success (granted there are many reasons for that, one big part of it being people not taking action and not willing to overcome fears), but that high percentage never sat well with me.
Coaches told me to focus on the 5% and work with them, but I always worried about the 95%. God wouldn’t let me shake that.
- The “Average” network marketer will only ever recruit 2.3 people in their ENTIRE career. The problem is that a great vocal minority preach that anyone can make a 6-figure income in network marketing and live a life of freedom with 10-15 hours/wk, but the truth is, you simply CANNOT make that happen with only 2.3 people on your team.
- One thing leaders would always teach (and as a result, I did too) was that network marketing is all about having of a whole bunch of people doing “a little bit.” Well, the dirty little secret about that is that this “whole bunch of people” are on an auto-ship that after 90 days, most can no longer afford. And since they are part of that 95% majority, not only are they NOT making money (because they can’t recruit), but also they are spending extra money every month on what is often a luxury item.
- For those who are really committed to achieving success in network marketing, it can take a solid 2-3 years of learning and training and getting beaten up by prospects before the average person could get good at prospecting, recruiting and closing a sale. And most people are not willing to stick it out for 2-3 years. They need an income “now”. For me, it took about that long as well, because I am simply a person who will NOT give up.
Once I realized all of this, I knew I could no longer do network marketing the way I had been doing it. I had to find another way. I had to find a way to help people (you) grow a business from home without worrying about all of that above.
And the really sad part?????
The sad part is, there was a solid 2-year period during my first 5 years in home business that I became so obsessed with learning the “how to’s” and the mindset and the why, and the how to make it work, how to recruit, how to close, how to build a team, how to have the mindset of the entrepreneur, etc that I pushed my family and close friends to the side.
I pushed them to the side so I could “figure it all out.” Something I swore I would never do. At first, I thought it would take a month or 2, but that turned into 4 months, then 6 then 10 and before I knew it, 2 years had gone by and…….
I missed it.
I missed a good 2-3 years of being “present” and “engaged” with my kids and my husband.
I was always:
-On the phone
-Or a webinar
-Or a team call
-Or gone to a training
-Or gone to a presentation or a meeting.
-When I was in the car with my kids taking them to school or sports, I was on the phone, or listening to an audio.
-When I was at their sports events, I was checking my email or Facebook.
I had tremendous personal growth, but I “missed it” with my family.
I was not on top of things with my kids’ classes or school activities and missed a whole bunch of stuff because I was too engaged with network marketing.
Too busy trying to figure it all out with network marketing.
And the irony of it all was, was that the more I poured myself into it, the more I would “stall” in my business. And I knew that God did not bless my business.
If I was to continue down this path, He would NOT bless my business.
The BIG Wake Up Call??????
My biggest wake up call happened on my husband’s birthday, February 2014. Our marriage was not great, because of this whole network marketing ‘thing.’ We had gone out for a birthday lunch, and I was supposed to leave the next day for my network marketing convention. I got invited to a private meeting with the owner of our MLM of 180,000 distributors.
Only about 25 people were invited to this meeting, and it was a huge privilege to be invited. I was finally going to “make it! in network marketing because of what I would have access to as a result of this meeting. But on this particular day, my husband’s birthday, a GIANT snowstorm was coming in and the airport was likely to get shut down.
I had to make a decision. Stay in town on my husband’s birthday, and miss the meeting with the CEO/owner of the company and also likely miss the first couple days of convention….. OR fly out on my husband’s birthday.
I chose to fly out.
I made it to the meeting and was so happy I did.
But then my husband wouldn’t return my calls, and I was miserable. He couldn’t believe that I actually chose the business over celebrating his special day with him.
I couldn’t enjoy convention at all, because the person who is the most important human in my entire life was miserable, disappointed and at “his end” with all this network marketing hoopla.
Don’t get me wrong. My husband is a great guy. Very strong in integrity, character, morals and ethics. He’s strong emotionally and physically and is a very reasonable man whom I love dearly. And until I got involved in network marketing, we had a great marriage. But he had seen me on this MLM train not having great success and me constantly giving my time to my business, and not to the family.
So what did I do????
I stayed at convention just one day, and then hopped on a plane the next day without telling my husband, and I went back home to my family.
I chose my family.
Unfortunately, no one was home when I got there, so I had to wait for them to come home, but they weren’t expecting me for 2 more days anyway.
You should have seen the look of hope in my husband’s eyes when he walked through the door and saw me there. We had a hug that seemed to last 20 minutes and it was one of the most precious moments in my entire 21 years of marriage.
I allowed my business to limp along for awhile, but I ended up leaving that company within a couple months. I knew what my priorities were, and to make it big in that company would require me to do 3-4 home meetings and presentations per week, and it’s simply a sacrifice I wasn’t willing to make.
And why do I tell all of you all of this????
Because I see the damage that is being done to so many families because of network marketing, and I don’t want that to happen to you. My desire is that you would be able to achieve your dreams with a home business, without sacrificing your family in the process. I don’t want you to miss big OR little moments with those who are important to you. I want you to be able to be “present and engaged” and “in the moment” with them.
We don’t know how long we will be on this earth; we are not promised tomorrow or next week or next year. I am passionate about you being able to live a life of abundance NOW, so that when you get to the end of your life, you can look back without regrets and say, “Yeah, THAT was a life well-lived!”
Here’s the Great Irony:
We want to work from home so that we get to spend more time with family and loved ones, being able to do the things we want to do, but as we work on developing the skills, mindset and habits to produce the results we desire, we sacrifice precious time with those same loved ones. We often push them to the side so we can achieve those goals, but yet we say they are the reason we are doing it in the first place! We sacrifice the very people that are the reason for pursuing the dreams!
And it doesn’t have to be that way.
I knew there had to be a way to make money from home without sacrificing family.
There had to be a way to make money from home without all the worrying about recruiting, home parties, home meetings, hotel meetings, in person presentations, and flying around the country.
I knew that I wanted to help people who wanted to achieve the same thing.
And I found it.
I found a way to help people achieve home business success without sacrificing family and other priorities in life. And, by the way, my marriage now is better than it ever was. And my home business is growing better than any business I’ve ever been in. I feel God blessing this new direction and I’ve never been at more peace than I am now.
If you want to know more about how I am helping people make money from home without sacrificing family, without having to go to business events, meetings, home parties etc, then reach out to me for more information.
Wishing you much success and EVEN MORE blessings!